If you’re having trouble accepting help as a family caregiver, you’re likely dealing with some mental blocks. Breaking down these blocks isn’t always easy, but you have to make the effort. Some of these solutions might be just what you need to start accepting more help than you currently have.
Work Through Negative Feelings.
If you’re feeling guilty or afraid about accepting help from others with caregiving, you need to get to the bottom of those feelings. Journaling can help, as can talking with a friend or family member about what’s going on. Remember that you never can know exactly what is going to happen in every situation, and sometimes you just have to let go of what’s holding you back.
Take Help Slowly.
Sometimes gradually accepting more and more help can give you the positive experiences that you need. As you have more positive results from accepting help, you may find that it’s easier and easier to accept help the next time. You may still have trouble now and again, but you also have results that you can look back on to help you feel more in control of the situation.
Make an Information Binder for Helpers.
Many caregivers find that starting and maintaining an information binder for people who help their senior can allay a lot of their own fears. When a new elder care provider comes to the home, for instance, you have a lot of information to share with that person to get them up to speed. This is especially helpful if you’re having trust issues with the idea of accepting help.
Just Do It.
In the end, you may have to just accept help when it comes your way. As a caregiver, you probably don’t have nearly the offers of help that you really need. This means that you are turning away a valuable resource that you might not have access to again. Continually turning down help often results in people stopping future offers of assistance. Close your eyes and bite the bullet and see how the experience goes.
If you’re still having trouble getting past your mental blocks, you might find it helpful to work with a therapist on the issue. A therapist can give you tools that you can use to figure out why you’re still holding onto your issues instead of allowing them to fall away. Then you can start to get the help that you need with caregiving.
If you or an aging loved-one are considering elder care in Lake Forest, CA, please contact the caring staff at Easy Living Home Care today. Providing Non-Medical Home Care Services in Orange County, CA since 2009. Call for Assistance: (949) 282-5017 or (949) 842-6831
At a very young age it was always Ms. LaPorte’s passion to work with the elderly. She was a caregiver at a nursing home in high school and college and volunteered in senior centers and senior events held by the city in which she grew up. After graduation, Ms. LaPorte became a special education teacher for sixteen years.
She put her teaching career on the sidelines to raise two wonderful children, during which her passion for the elderly inspired her to start Easy Living Home Care in 2009. Ms. Laporte wanted to help people, especially seniors, find competent, qualified, and caring in-home care at reasonable rates.
Ms LaPorte takes an active role in conducting and managing all operations of her business. She is patient, compassionate and listens. Ms. Laporte is always available to her clients and staff.
In her spare time, Lori volunteers for the American Red Cross and Leashes of Love canine rescue organization.